Somewhere
between struggling to find work and fighting stress, I found myself spending a
lot of time on the internet. For what seemed like a very, very long time
nothing constructive took place. My life
didn’t change, I didn’t find any assignments and I was NOT having fun. Everyone
seemed to be having a good time, doing what they always wanted. Everyone but
me. Forget getting inspired by their successes, I was almost beginning to get jealous
of them! Trying times, you see. However, it wasn’t long before realization
dawned upon me.
We live in a
virtual world, using Facebook and Google and Twitter as platforms to
communicate and to create an impression on others. We wish to look a certain
way, be perceived in a certain way. I figured that if we’re all so occupied
with appearances, why would we want anyone to know that we’ve failed? It’s
always easier to pretend to be busy, to exercise some selective amnesia and remember
only the highs and not the lows. Yes, success stories are inspiring and all
that, but you can’t be successful without having faced your share of failures,
right? Of course, I wasn’t alone in the struggle. People around me just chose
to play up their plusses. Always.
But what’s
wrong with that you ask? From my personal experience, I can tell you how
intimidating it is to know that everyone else went out and became an achiever
while you were still hunting for a job. It’s not only a misrepresentation but
it also makes you wonder if there’s really something wrong with you. And God
forbid you give into that feeling, you can say goodbye to your own little
success story. Pretty much.
So, while I’m
all for sharing your positive experiences, I’m a bigger fan of making the
negative ones public. Nobody’s life is perfect, and it won’t ever be. That’s just
not life. Life is all about the ups and downs, the highs and lows…oh you know
the drill, don’t you! There really is no scope to pretend then why do it? You
embrace your mistakes the same way you’d welcome your success. It’s really that
simple a task but it also means that you have the guts to look failure in the
eye. When you speak about how you faced rejection or the many times that you f’ed
up, I believe that it shows that that you’re not scared to make mistakes. Oh,
and believe it or not, it even makes your life sound a lot more interesting!
On a more
serious note though, it takes tremendous courage to come out and speak about
the mistakes you made and the obstacles you faced. But doing so proves to be incredibly
helpful for people like me, who are out looking for some guidance and
inspiration. You can’t show anyone the way to succeed but when you tell them
how you failed, they at least know they’re on the right path.